Bullying can be one of the most horrific and trying times of a young persons life. It is almost normal in primary and secondary schools, even more so with the introduction of social media to young children. In this blog post, I discuss the types of bullying, why bullying happens and how to take care of yourself during this difficult time.
Bullying can affect anyone. It can happen at school, in the workplace, in the home or online.
The person who experiences bullying can often feel angry, hurt, humiliated or threatened.
The main types of bullying include:
Verbal bullying: Verbal bullying can be face-to-face, written or often over the phone. It includes name-calling, put-downs, slagging, threats and sexual harassment.
Physical bullying: Physical bullying can include being punched, tripped, kicked and having things stolen or damaged. Sexual abuse is also a form of physical bullying.
Social bullying: Social bullying is often one of the hardest types of bullying to identify and deal with.
Social bullying includes being left out, ignored or having rumours spread about you.
Psychological bullying: Psychological bullying can be hard to identify. It is often less direct and can feel like it is in your head. It can include intimidation, dirty looks, stalking, manipulation or unpredictable reactions.
Cyberbullying: This type of bullying happens online. It can include offensive and abusive messages. It also includes hacking into accounts or spreading rumours online.
Cyberbullying can be difficult to deal with. It can become viral and difficult. You may not know what to do.
Why bullying happens
People who bully often have low self-esteem.
They use bullying as a way of exerting power to make themselves feel better.
The person bullies as a way to deal with their own problems. It is not because of something you have done.
Finding support when you are bullied
Being bullied can leave you feeling vulnerable and alone.
It can be helpful to talk to someone about what is happening. Speaking to someone can help you feel less alone.
Taking Care of Yourself
It can be a very difficult and lonely when experiencing bullying. Here are some ideas to help keep on top of your self-care:
Explore your interests
Taking up a hobby you’ve always wanted to get into can help you fight loneliness and isolation.
If you’re on your own in a new place, a hobby can be a great way of meeting new people and making new friends.
If you’re feeling lonely for no obvious reason, taking up an evening class or sport can help take your mind off it.
Enjoy your own company
This might feel strange at first if you’re used to being around other people. But, spending time alone can be liberating.
The freedom to be alone with your thoughts can be a great way of winding down. Try and feel comfortable with just yourself for company.
Think of people you want to be around. Generally, they are people who are very comfortable in themselves. That quality is attractive to others. Learning to be on your own and like your own company is a step towards this kind of confidence.
Try not to worry
Feelings of loneliness often come and go during life. Sometimes the best thing to do is accept your feelings. Remember, you’ll probably feel better after a while.
If you’re lonely because you’re homesick, think about when you’ll be back with your friends and family. Try to enjoy the new experiences you’re having away from home.
If you’re constantly lonely for no obvious reason, it could be a sign of depression. This is something you should talk about to family, friends or a counsellor.
Bullying Infographic: Safebook
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